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Monday, October 16, 2017

What did I say wrong this time?

"Christians are hypocrites!" my friend said.
"We can be," I replied. "We are not perfect, and we will mess up."
"I can't believe in a God or a religion that allows so much evil, the babies, animals being tortured. I just can't believe a god who would just watch and not do anything," she said.
As we sat at my kitchen table, she continued.
"My other religious friend sends me all this stuff. about Jesus. I don't read it and I don't like it."
"There is a difference between a religion and a relationship with Jesus. Religion in man's way to God, Jesus is Gods way, through a relationship. Jesus died on the cross so we can now have access to God" I said.
"I can't believe in your religion!"
My heart broke. I want my friend to know the love and peace of Jesus.
She keeps calling my relationship a religion. I know she does not understand.
After many months and conversations, prompted by her questions about the origin of sin, Jesus' life, and the fall of man, she still replied,
"I can't believe in your religion!"
 I looked her in the eye,
"Can you do one thing and I will never mention this again?"
"Depends on what it is," she replied.
"Jesus is a historical figure. He claimed to be God and proved it by dying on the cross, being buried and rising from the dead. This event is recorded by historians that were not believers. His resurrection was witnessed by over 3000 people. Please ask yourself the following question, 'Who is Jesus and what am I going to do with that information?'"
My friend shrugged her shoulders, looked at me and said, "May I have some more soup."
Recently she has heard other born-again believers say things like,
"Christians are held to a higher standard than non-believers."
"God hates gays."
"God is mad at all those people so he sent the hurricane to punish them."
As my brothers and sisters in Christ, may I ask you a question? Should we say these things?
Will non-believers want to know our loving God when His children talk like this?
I've been guilty of building a wall, instead of building a bridge.(tweet this)
I pray daily, sometimes all day, for God to cultivate my friend's heart to receive the Word. 
I ask God to show me what I may say or do that hinders her from seeing HIM.
I know it is God who calls and saves, but I desire to be a light that reflects the love of God into her life.

My friend has some good questions.
How would you answer my friend?
Will you join me in prayer and ask God for wisdom and discernment when speaking to others?


  1. This is such a tough one, Cherrilynn. I was talking with someone else about the same thing earlier today. As believers, we learn that God can be glorified in the bad things as well as the good, but for those who don't believe, it's difficult to comprehend. I would start with something about how God is bigger and more in-control than we can understand. From there... I don't know. Let me know if you discover a great answer!

    1. Thank you So much for your response. It is so true that it is a difficult topic. I'm praying the holy spirit gives me wisdom and discernment.

  2. I’m with you on this one—Christians can be so harsh in what they say. I don’t think most of them think about how it affects non-believers. Thank you for saying it!

    Heather Bock

    1. Heather. Thanks for your encouragement. May God bless you